10X Your Self Improvement
Author
Damon Cart
Date
Dec 05, 2018
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Some people are just naturals when it comes to positive thinking. But if you're like me positive thinking doesn't exactly come naturally to you. It's something you have to work at.
The reason I mention this is because I almost called this article 'What's Wrong With Positive Thinking?'
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The problem for those of us who have to work at it is that we're also guilty of faking it.
How many times have you encountered a crappy situation where you felt inadequate or hopeless and you turned to positive thinking to make it better? Did it work?
It usually doesn't and it can even make things worse because you might feel like it works for other people but not for you and that makes you feel even more hopeless.
Been there and I have good news for you. All you did was skip a very simple step and when you plug this piece in, it will supercharge your positive thinking and self improvement.
The key is acceptance, acceptance of the situation you find yourself in, but more importantly self-acceptance.
When something bad happens or we feel inadequate most of us immediately look for a distraction instead of accepting our circumstances and our feelings. Positive thinking can be an easily accessible tool to do this, but distraction is not its intended purpose.
Before you try to paint over the bad with positive thinking, first accept it. Most of us skip over this step, which means what we think is positive thinking isn't really positive at all.
It's actually hope, which in this case comes from a place of hopelessness and desperation.
Positive thinking is what you do after you've fully accepted yourself and your situation, not before. Positive thinking is not a cure. It's the direction you turn toward after acceptance.
What happens if you don't accept your failures, you don't accept the bad things people have done to you, and you don't accept the twists and turns life throws at you?
Not only will you quit on positive thinking altogether because it's not working for you, you will likely become bitter.
So what does it mean to truly accept?
This can be scary for a lot of us because we fear that if we accept our situation it means we will give into complacency and give up on improving our circumstances.
We fear that if we fully accept ourselves with all of our flaws and limitations that we won't work to overcome them.
We also fear that if we accept the pain that someone inflicts on us that we will let it happen again. But that's not what acceptance is or means.
When we don't accept we have to drag the burden of the weight of what we don't accept around wherever we go while pretending it doesn't affect us. But it does affect us because what we don't accept keeps us from moving on from it.
What would it be like to truly accept yourself as you are right now? What would it be like to truly accept everything as it is?
What do you feel when you imagine that?
You might feel fear, which is normal. Accept it.
Now what do you feel?
You first have to accept your limitations if you want to move beyond them.
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Damon Cart
NLP Coach and Trainer
Santa Cruz, CA
Damon Cart
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Damon Cart is considered to be a natural talent by some of the best NLP trainers in the world. His approach to guiding and teaching students brings to their awareness that they've been doing NLP all of their lives without realizing it and he empowers them with skills and resources to thrive and reach their full potential. With the understanding of how Neuro Linguistic Programs create oneβs experience a person can then take charge of those programs and create the experience and the life they want. By taking this approach into his own rigorous, daily NLP practice Damon has been able to rapidly accelerate his progress in learning, coaching clients and teaching workshops.
