Creating Lasting Change Part 1 - NLP Coaching & Training
Author
Damon Cart
Date
Nov 11, 2018
Content
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This is the first of a 3 part video and blog series. The third and final video and blog will come out this Saturday with a big announcement.
Chances are you want to learn NLP or have learned NLP in order to make a change in yourself and your life.
Change is hard people say, but I have a different take on it.
Creating lasting change may even seem harder, but once again I have a different take, which will help you to reframe the way you go about making changes so it's much easier and the change lasts.
First of all, change is not hard or difficult. Resisting change is what is hard.
Think about when you were a kid how easy it was to adapt and change to circumstances.
Why?
Because you lacked experience, which means you had fewer expectations about how the world around you is "supposed" to be.
Where does one start when they want to change and make changes?
The best place to start is stop making excuses about anything and everything.
You may call them valid reasons, but they're still excuses and everyone including myself is guilty of using them to prevent change and distract you from pursuing what you want.
What would it be like every time when you start to make an excuse about something you stop yourself? You interrupt this toxic pattern and own your resistance to the changes you would like to make happen.
For some of you, your excuses are the reason your life is still the same as it was a year ago. For others, it's the reason you haven't moved as quickly toward the life you want to create.
The two most common excuses are "I don't have the time" and "I don't have the money."
It's not surprising since these are the two most precious commodities we value.
Want to make more money, lose weight, travel the world, pay off debt, start that new business, write that novel, go back to school, spend more time with family?
Of course, you do except you don't have the time or the money.
When I used to sell insurance, I encountered these excuses daily. As a trusted advisor to my clients, in order to sell them policies they needed, I had to demonstrate why it was worth their time to come see me and worth their money to buy policies that protected their money.
These excuses can be overcome, but since you're reading this and I'm not sitting there with you to illicit your outcome and values and help you build a strategy to getting what you want if only you had the time and money, what can you do?
Stop making excuses of course!
Know that excuses are standing in the way of everything that you want. Know that time and money are the most common excuses that prevent you from getting what you want and also discover what other favorite excuses you have.
Everyone has there own favorite excuses.
Every time you find yourself making an excuse, stop and ask yourself do you really want what you think you want?
Sometimes we don't really want what we think we should want so we make excuses. Get clear about this. Maybe you don't really want it.
I've heard couples make excuses, for example, as to why they haven't had kids yet only to realize they don't really want kids. Their parents were pressuring them to have them so they kept making up excuses that seemed reasonable not to have them.
If you don't really want the change, own it. You'll immediately feel relieved from unburdening yourself from the pressure to get something you don't really want.
For everything else that you're making an excuse for that you do really want, just stop making up excuses. Interrupt the pattern and notice what happens.
What happens when you stop distracting yourself from what you want with excuses about why you don't have it and just sit in that space?
.....To be continued!
Damon Cart
NLP Coach and Trainer
Santa Cruz, CA
Damon Cart
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Damon Cart is considered to be a natural talent by some of the best NLP trainers in the world. His approach to guiding and teaching students brings to their awareness that they've been doing NLP all of their lives without realizing it and he empowers them with skills and resources to thrive and reach their full potential. With the understanding of how Neuro Linguistic Programs create oneβs experience a person can then take charge of those programs and create the experience and the life they want. By taking this approach into his own rigorous, daily NLP practice Damon has been able to rapidly accelerate his progress in learning, coaching clients and teaching workshops.
