Don't Get Mad or Even, Do This Instead
Oct 22, 2018
As you become more successful, as you get more and more of what you want out of life, and as you become happier and more fulfilled, inevitably people in your life are going to start to notice.
Unfortunately for most of you you're going to encounter people who want to stop you and even sabotage you, if it hasn't happened already.
Most of the time it's the people you least expect.
You may be aware of this happening to you or perhaps it may be happening and you don't even realize it.
Why would anyone do this especially by people who are friends or family members, people who supposedly care about you?
Many reasons actually and it usually has little to do with caring about you.
They may care about you but they might not believe you deserve your success especially if they're unsatisfied with their own lives.
They may have a similar background as you do, grew up in the same town, had all of the same opportunities, which leads them to the only conclusion they can come up; you shouldn't be able to get what you want if they aren't.
If your success defies their excuses for not being successful, in a way your good fortune calls them out and exposes them.
Unsuccessful people often are addicted to sameness, familiarity, and comfort. Getting what you want disturbs those things so instead of rising to their potential like you're doing, they would rather focus their efforts on bringing you back down to their level.
Obviously these people are toxic and even if he or she is a friend or a family member, get away from them or spend as little time as possible with them.
"But we've been friends since first grade!" or "She's my sister!" You might be thinking.
Is your history with that person worth your happiness? Are you really helping them by not realizing your own potential?
I think you know the answers to these questions.
So what do you do if someone like this (or anyone) tries to sabotage you, tries to make you fail? What should you do?
Should you retaliate? Should you hit back? Should you go passive aggressive and hit back without them even knowing it's you?
Definitely stand up for yourself if you're in the middle of something like this.
But often these things happen quickly, before you even know it, or they sabotage you behind your back so that by the time you realize what's happening it's too late to stand up for yourself.
It's over, in other words, before you've even realize what's happened.
Let it go (and one other thing).
I know, easier said than done. More on that in a moment.
Putting your attention on revenge, retaliation, evening the score, etc. is a poor use of your energy, focus, and time. It will not help you become more successful, happier, or more fulfilled.
It will get in the way of your progress.
So what can you do?
Take all of that energy and focus that you're investing in revenge and turn it toward your own happiness and fulfillment.
Nothing is more irritating to someone who wants you to fail than you continuing to be successful and happy.
Be careful though.
Don't work towards success in order to show them up. Again, this will work against you in the long run. It may drive you harder at first, but will limit you eventually if you don't let it go.
Work towards your success and happiness because you want to be successful and happy and know that this is the best use of your time and energy as well as the best way you can get back at people who have harmed you.
Let their negativity feed your positivity.
Now what do you do if you find this too difficult? What do you do if you can't stop thinking of getting back at them?
Learn NLP, if you haven't already. If you've learned NLP, apply your NLP skills to letting go of this and getting out of this scarcity state and into a state of abundance focusing on what you want.
There's many ways to do it. Find what works for you.
Think of NLP as an essential life technology to learn and practice throughout your life.
It's not the only technology. I won't even say it's the best. It's what has worked the best for me as well as thousands of people.
Don't get mad or even, let it go. Leverage the energy and effort that goes into being angry and vengeful into being even more successful and happy.
Last but not least, use your NLP skills to do this.
NLP Coach and Trainer
Santa Cruz, CA
Damon Cart is considered to be a natural talent by some of the best NLP trainers in the world. His approach to guiding and teaching students brings to their awareness that they've been doing NLP all of their lives without realizing it and he empowers them with skills and resources to thrive and reach their full potential. With the understanding of how Neuro Linguistic Programs create one’s experience a person can then take charge of those programs and create the experience and the life they want. By taking this approach into his own rigorous, daily NLP practice Damon has been able to rapidly accelerate his progress in learning, coaching clients and teaching workshops.