How To Deal With A Narcissist
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The best thing to do is to cut all ties with someone who you believe is a narcissist and get away from them.
The second best thing to do is watch this video.
Sometimes it's not always that easy though. Sometimes you work with a narcissist or even worse, he or she is your boss.
You may have family members who are narcissistic.
So what do you do if you have to interact with a narcissist?
Identify their narcissistic traits right away.
Narcissism is a spectrum. It's not an either/or sort of issue. People have varying degrees of narcissism.
Common traits of a narcissist is someone who tries to demonstrate superiority by putting others down or even humiliating others or trying to humiliate you if you're in their crosshairs.
They will also try to dominate and control situations using a dominate frame.
They will say things like "We both know" or "You and I already know you're not good at...."
Narcissists functionify people. Yes I made that word up. It means instead of objectifying people they try to get them to do things for them especially things you don't want to do.
This is the woman in a relationship who constantly tries to get their man to give up the things he enjoys most for her.
This is the man who tries to get his wife or girlfriend to stop talking to her friends.
So how do you deal with a narcissist?
First understand that narcissism comes from a weak sense of self. Narcissists feel compelled to do these things because they have no inner sense of validation so they seek it outside of themselves.
You may be thinking that you know many people like this and they're not narcissistic. Perhaps you even do the same and you're not narcissistic.
So what is this about?
Remember narcissism is an extreme case. Most of us tend to have some narcissistic qualities. They're just not as extreme.
Because a narcissist has a weak sense of self they will surround themselves with people who will not criticize them or even give them constructive feedback. They will surround themselves with people who tell them what they want to here in other words.
When dealing with a narcissist, confront them about their bad behavior. Give them feedback. You don't need to attack them but be prepared for them to attack back. They may or may not, but one thing is for sure, they will get away from you.
Treat a narcissist like you know their dirty, little secret and that is that they really are weak and scared and that their extreme behavior is an exaggerated attempt to cover up this weakness.
Don't try to win the argument with them. Just call them out. Confront them. Be unwavering. Expect them to fight back especially if they feel cornered, but chances are from that point on they will avoid you and you won't have to deal with them again.
Damon Cart
NLP Coach and Trainer
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Damon Cart is considered to be a natural talent by some of the best NLP trainers in the world. His approach to guiding and teaching students brings to their awareness that they've been doing NLP all of their lives without realizing it and he empowers them with skills and resources to thrive and reach their full potential. With the understanding of how Neuro Linguistic Programs create oneβs experience a person can then take charge of those programs and create the experience and the life they want. By taking this approach into his own rigorous, daily NLP practice Damon has been able to rapidly accelerate his progress in learning, coaching clients and teaching workshops.
