How To Master NLP Skills & Techniques To Change Your Life
Author
Damon Cart
Date
Sep 19, 2018
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Most questions I get about Neuro Linguistic Programming have something to do with the two statements above.
When people practice a NLP process or technique and it doesn't work, they usually do one of three things; pretend like they got the result they wanted even though they didn't, get frustrated, or quit.
If you've done any of these, don't feel bad. I've done all three many times.
If you really want to master NLP rapidly start a NLP journal and set aside an hour a day to practice. An hour a day over the course of a year will yield exponential results!
Spend that hour practicing NLP on yourself or with a practice partner or a little of both. You might want to offer free coaching early on to practice until you really develop core skills and then start charging for your services.
Everyday set an intention of what you want to focus on. You could focus on watching people's breathing with every person you encounter. Or you could listen for their breathing.
You cold also listen for certain language patterns or decide to use one particular language pattern all day when you get the opportunity. This type of chunking down to specific tasks will keep you from getting overwhelmed and it will instill NLP as something you do daily and automatically.
When you get to the end of your day and you're writing your findings in your journal and you've got nothing new to report, you've got no new information, nothing seemed to work, that's okay.
This is a critical moment actually.
A void is created. You put effort in and you got nothing back. This is where most people pretend, quit, or fill the void with an unhelpful emotion like frustration.
Think about when you're experiencing an awkward silence with someone. Both of you feel the need to fill the void by saying anything even if it's uninteresting.
This is because voids are like vacuums. Voids want to be filled.
In your NLP practice allow the void. Don't pretend it isn't there. Don't quit and don't fill the void with negative emotions (or any emotions). Just sit with it.
The vacuum of the void will pull something though and you will get a nice surprise.
Patterns.
Peel away all of your patterns, your thought patterns like beliefs and even your physical patterns like getting up in the morning, driving a car, sitting at a desk.
What you're left with is nothing but potential.
Essentially what you are is patterns piled on top of patterns and most of these patterns are unconscious.
Use NLP to make the patterns conscious. Use NLP to code the patterns. When you do this, you can then change them.
NLP is filled with processes and techniques to do exactly this.
If you're not experiencing life like you want to, it's because patterns like beliefs, like submodalities and meta programs are holding it in place.
Once you discover the patterns you can change them and create new patterns.
The famous NLP Swish Pattern is exactly this.
You discover the pattern that compels some behavior you don't want like overeating or smoking. Then you intervene by programming in a new pattern of your ideal self that interrupts the compulsion and creates a new pattern.
Hold this concept of patterning, intervention, and re-patterning as you practice NLP and you will get from "here" to "there" faster than you thought possible.
You will supercharge your NLP practice!
Join me for my online practitioner training and let's get started immediately!
Damon Cart
NLP Coach and Trainer
Santa Cruz, CA
Damon Cart
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Damon Cart is considered to be a natural talent by some of the best NLP trainers in the world. His approach to guiding and teaching students brings to their awareness that they've been doing NLP all of their lives without realizing it and he empowers them with skills and resources to thrive and reach their full potential. With the understanding of how Neuro Linguistic Programs create oneβs experience a person can then take charge of those programs and create the experience and the life they want. By taking this approach into his own rigorous, daily NLP practice Damon has been able to rapidly accelerate his progress in learning, coaching clients and teaching workshops.
