How To Train People To Treat You Well Part 2
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Damon Cart
Date
Jan 30, 2017
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For Video Link: CLICK HERE! I received so much positive feedback for my video 'How To Train People To Treat You Well' that a follow up is in order. One thing I realized was that it focused on intervening when people are not treating you well and letting them know how you want to be treated. What I left out is how we should also demonstrate to others how we want to be treated by treating them how we want to be treated. There is a difference though between being nice in a pandering way to someone because you want something from them and treating them well because you believe all people should be treated well. I can't tell you how many times I've seen people being nice to get something from someone and then getting upset when they don't get it. They'll go from being super nice to someone to getting mean and passive aggressive with them. You don't need me to tell you that's not okay. I can't tell you how many times I've encountered people who are nice to everyone, but don't feel like they deserve the same and let people treat them poorly. Again, this is not okay and doing that will mess with the congruence (I mentioned in the first video I did on this) of your unconscious mind. If you treat people well and you don't treat yourself well and you let others treat you poorly, this affects the way you relate to everything. You're likely to become passive aggressive and on your way to a mental breakdown. Simply put, be nice to others because you believe everyone deserves to be treated well and believe that you're a part of that equation too. Know that you are not truly treating people well if you allow others to not treat you well. Also know that it's incongruent to treat others like shit and then expect them to treat you well. If you're using being nice as a strategy just to get what you want from people never mind the moral and ethical implications, you're severely limiting yourself. I've been using a lot of dating examples lately because it's something most of us can relate to. Here's another one. Also, all of this can be applied in reverse. It can be applied to women too in other words. I just happen to be a hetero dude so it's coming from that perspective. There's the "nice" guy and there's being nice. For any of you guys out there who believe you're a nice guy and believe that's why you're not dating, you're wrong. "Nice guys finish last?" Wrong! Any woman who has their shit together is going to want a nice boyfriend (girlfriend/partner). What she's not going to want is a guy who does nice things in order to pressure her into doing or giving him what he wants. She doesn't want a guy who will act out passive aggressively when she doesn't do what he wants her to do. She's not going to want a guy who doesn't have a spine either. You can also be nice and assertive at the same time. In fact, this is a huge turn-on for most people. I know when I meet a woman who is nice and confident and assertive, I'm immediately attracted to her. Women will sometimes date jerks over nice guys because to them jerks appear assertive and they lack the experience to know the difference between assertiveness and bad behavior. Some women will date jerks because they believe that type of treatment is what they deserve. You don't want to date these women until they sort this out for themselves, believe me. In other words, don't aspire to be a jerk because you think it will get you what you want. Any time you scratch the surface of an arrogant jerk you will find a very insecure person with low self-esteem and a weak self-concept. Of course all of this applies in the reverse as well and it applies in all types of relationships LGBTQ. To summarize: Train people to treat you how you want them to treat you by asserting yourself and letting them know when they're not treating you the way you expect to be treated. Also demonstrate to people how you want to be treated by treating them the way you want to be treated.
Damon Cart
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Damon Cart is considered to be a natural talent by some of the best NLP trainers in the world. His approach to guiding and teaching students brings to their awareness that they've been doing NLP all of their lives without realizing it and he empowers them with skills and resources to thrive and reach their full potential. With the understanding of how Neuro Linguistic Programs create oneβs experience a person can then take charge of those programs and create the experience and the life they want. By taking this approach into his own rigorous, daily NLP practice Damon has been able to rapidly accelerate his progress in learning, coaching clients and teaching workshops.
