What Is He Communicating When He’s Not Talking?
Author
Damon Cart
Date
Sep 15, 2017
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General tips
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I hear this a lot from women. When their men aren’t talking, not sharing their feelings, they get curious and sometimes they get concerned.
In this video I discuss with Dr. Matt what we’re thinking and communicating in a relationship when we’re not talking.
Dr. Matt and I can’t read every man’s mind so we don’t discuss the content of what each individual man might be thinking at any particular time.
Instead Dr. Matt talks about how to educate people- in this case women educating their men- on how to communicate their feelings to them.
Everything starts with rapport. People need to feel safe before they verbally communicate their feelings to someone. We all fear being judged when we consider sharing something personal.
Quite honestly, speaking from experience and observation, men often don’t feel safe communicating their feelings even to their girlfriends or their wifes.
In NLP we say that you cannot not influence and when you want a different response from someone you have to change your communication. We often get trapped in demanding something from another person whether material or conceptual.
We demand a good paying job because we completed college. We demand that people respect us. We demand that someone we’re in an intimate relationship with shares their feelings with us.
Demanding rarely works. Change your communication, in other words stop demanding, and you will likely receive a different response.
Be flexible and keep changing your communication until you get the response you want.
Damon Cart
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Damon Cart is considered to be a natural talent by some of the best NLP trainers in the world. His approach to guiding and teaching students brings to their awareness that they've been doing NLP all of their lives without realizing it and he empowers them with skills and resources to thrive and reach their full potential. With the understanding of how Neuro Linguistic Programs create one’s experience a person can then take charge of those programs and create the experience and the life they want. By taking this approach into his own rigorous, daily NLP practice Damon has been able to rapidly accelerate his progress in learning, coaching clients and teaching workshops.
