What Is The Best NLP Technique?
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Damon Cart
Date
Nov 03, 2018
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The quick answer is...
The best NLP technique is the one that works right now, which may not be the same NLP technique that will work tomorrow or for a different problem.
Too often I see NLP students chasing down the best NLP technique, the magic one that's going to work for everything. That's like thinking the magic is in the wand instead of the magician.
It gets even worse when students get attached to one technique believing it's so perfect that it will work in every situation and with every client.
When it fails, and it always does, either they pretend it actually worked which isn't useful or they feel incredibly lost.
I once heard a great metaphor from the Zen philosopher Alan Watts. He said that ideas, techniques, thoughts, beliefs, etc. are to be discarded the moment they don't work or aren't useful for a particular situation.
He went on to say imagine that you're on a journey and on that journey you come to a pond that stands between you and the mountains ahead that you must cross. You see a raft that can take you to the other side so you get on it and paddle your way to the other side.
When you get to the other side would you then put that raft on your back and carry it up the mountains?
Of course not.
The same goes for NLP techniques and processes. If they're not working, discard them. I don't mean forget them, just let a technique go if it's not working and try something else.
Remember you're the magician and the magic is in you.
What else can you do?
Cultivate NLP skills. The best way to do that is to practice NLP techniques. Practice them precisely. Don't take creative liberties especially in the beginning.
If you're not following the process precisely and it doesn't work, you won't know if it didn't work because it wasn't a good match for the situation or if it was because you didn't follow the process.
Later, when you've cultivated skills and you not only know the technique you understand why it works, it's good to experiment with it to find out why it doesn't work sometimes.
One of my NLP teachers and mentors Judith DeLozier used to tell me "Techniques will fail, but your skills will never fail you."
And if you're skills aren't good enough right now, keep practicing and they will be. You haven't failed unless you quit.
Damon Cart
NLP Coach and Trainer
Santa Cruz, CA
Damon Cart
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Damon Cart is considered to be a natural talent by some of the best NLP trainers in the world. His approach to guiding and teaching students brings to their awareness that they've been doing NLP all of their lives without realizing it and he empowers them with skills and resources to thrive and reach their full potential. With the understanding of how Neuro Linguistic Programs create oneβs experience a person can then take charge of those programs and create the experience and the life they want. By taking this approach into his own rigorous, daily NLP practice Damon has been able to rapidly accelerate his progress in learning, coaching clients and teaching workshops.
