Your Success Is Closer Than You Think - NLP Mindset
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Do you binge watch Success "Gurus" on YouTube or read their blogs regularly?
Since I'm in the same niche I like to see who's doing what especially on Youtube. I must say I've had enough of these people trying to sell what we should think success is.
For example I saw this guy doing a video in his car. Most of the time doing a video in your car means it's low production, but this video was very strategic.
The man talking to the camera carefully positioned his head so that you could see on the headrest on the seat that the car was a Rolls Royce.
In other words he's pretending to be humble but it just so happens he lets it slip that he's driving an extremely expensive car.
Now I'm sure he's a nice guy and I'm sure he's quite successful. He obviously knows how to sell himself and make people feel like they want what he has.
People look at this and think "That's success and I want it."
But is it really? And who determines that?
I've chased that kind of success for years; success as defined by others, not myself, and it's miserable.
When you chase that kind of success there's always a sense of I don't have it yet. I need to work more, work harder, sacrifice more, etc.
The worst thing that can happen to you is you actually get it.
Now I'm not saying there's anything wrong with having nice cars, owning mansions, or hobnobbing with celebrities. If it was offered to me I certainly wouldn't turn it down.
But it's not what success is to me because it doesn't fulfill me and it doesn't fulfill most people.
When people sacrifice so much to achieve this idea of success and it doesn't fulfill them they have two choices.
1. Get honest with yourself and change direction in order to find what fulfills you
2. Pretend like it fulfills you even though it doesn't because you sacrificed so much to get it and keep chasing what others define as success hoping one day it will suddenly make you happy
As I write this I'm in Hanoi, Vietnam. It didn't cost nearly as much money as you probably think to get here, nor did my trip to Hong Kong before landing in Vietnam.
I feel 100 times more successful sitting here than I would sitting in a Rolls Royce. For the cost of a fancy sports car I could do what I love and do what fulfills me many times over.
And it's likely so could you.
Stop letting others define success for you.
Get clear on what fulfills you. If living in a small house in a small town with a great family fulfills you, that's success. You don't need expensive toys to prove it.
When I used to surf my surfing mentor who was in his 70s and had been surfing for more than 40 years asked me once, "Damon, who is the best surfer out there?"
I thew out answers like "the one catching the most waves," "the one doing the most tricks," etc.
"Nope," he said. "The one having the most fun."
Apply that to your life and you will always be successful.
The most successful person is the one enjoying their life the most and that you can't put a price on. It doesn't matter if you own 20 sports cars or one used car, success is an inside job.
If you can't enjoy life with what you have now, millions of dollars isn't going to change that.
Success is closer than you think.
Damon Cart
NLP Coach and Trainer
Hanoi, Vietnam
Damon Cart
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Damon Cart is considered to be a natural talent by some of the best NLP trainers in the world. His approach to guiding and teaching students brings to their awareness that they've been doing NLP all of their lives without realizing it and he empowers them with skills and resources to thrive and reach their full potential. With the understanding of how Neuro Linguistic Programs create oneโs experience a person can then take charge of those programs and create the experience and the life they want. By taking this approach into his own rigorous, daily NLP practice Damon has been able to rapidly accelerate his progress in learning, coaching clients and teaching workshops.
